changing friendships

[Meg]

Oh I am having an interesting time at the moment. Still single and discovering that my social circle is shrinking of like-minded single friends. I am now finding this frustrating and thought provoking.

It is very hard to explain the emotional roller coaster that I find myself on at the moment.

One of my closest friends just started dating another friend of mine and I am very happy for them but she was my single friend. I am jealous of their happiness (long may their happiness continue) and I am jealous of the friendship that they have with each other.

I remember hearing that you go through something similar to the grieving process when a close friend starts dating. I never really thought that this was true. I have always been happy when, at any point in my life, friends have "found" that someone special. I always had other single friends that I could go and 'play' with. With this friend it is slightly different.

I would love to find that someone too but find it an interesting process to go through as I am a very BIG personality in terms of humour, self esteem etc. I know my own mind and sometimes that comes back to bite me. There are very few men I know that can cope with that for a long time. I am out there - dinners, social clubs, etc - and sometimes I meet someone that is interesting and intelligent but there are so many that dont quite make it.......

This friend of mine and I would go out and enjoy the evenings for what they were: a time to catch up and get amongst it in Melbourne town. Now I feel lost as she, quite rightly, wants to spend time with the man that has caught her attention.

I will bounce back and be out there completely but at the moment I am just hurting that she has something that I would like. (please note I said someTHING not someONE). I am also hurting over the change (not loss) in friendship.

I hope the feeling disappears soon.......