Falling out of touch with friends at this age...

[Everyday Soap]

Im starting to notice that more and more of my friends are settling into long term relationships, getting married and having babies. I had a discussion last night with a married friend who complained she felt out of the loop and alone because she was now married and we dont include her in everything we do anymore. Are we (the single ones) wrong to assume they now have a different life with different priorities and that we shouldnt bother them with and invite to the mall or coffee 3 nights a week?

Have you lost friends after they got married? Are you married and have fallen out of your friendship loops?

Discuss...
:)

[chris]

Babies are one thing, but just getting married shouldn't mean getting left out.

Unless your husband/wife thinks Nic Cage is a good actor, and in that case they should not be allowed out in public anyway.

[A Country Wife]

Yes, friends attitudes do change towards you once you get married. I am now lumped in with the "married people" and therefore my non-married friends believe I could not be possibly be interested in going out.

It's very strange! However, non-married friends that I have made since being married ask me out more than my old friends... Getting married doesn't mean you turn into a boring old fart...

I still like to shop, drink coffee, gossip and have quality girl time with my girlfriends, but my single friends tend to think I am busy being married and don't include me so much.... but then I don't include them when I am going out with the hubby....
But in my defense we're still in the honeymoon period - first year of being married...

CW

[John Waire]

i only keep in touch with a few old friends. my wife and daughter are my life and our neighbors and their children have filled the void once occupied by others. things change. priorities change. responsibilities in life and the amount of time to spread yourself out amongst it all...becomes quite a juggling act. i'm a believer that the strongest friendships last no matter what...and whether you drop off-line for a few months due to distance or just due to the pace of life...catching back up with a true friend is always easy and fun.

[Crazy Beautiful]

Well it all makes sense. You don't want to be the single friend calling "May" and asking her to leave her responsibilities behind and come hangout with the singles...do you? Well, there was a time some time ago when I would think of people in their late 20's going to clubs as lonely souls. I can't believe I felt that way and just last saturday that by me being single at 33 and at Cameo's last Saturday on South Beach put me in that same category but worse off because I'm not in my twenties anymore go figure.

As for my friends, I have one friend that is still single and we go places now. But hopefully it will be all over for the both of us soon enough and if she should go down the happy road of commitment before I do, I will walk her to the bus station and bid her farewell for the journey in which she has to embark will be a much better journey than the one we are on and I would not disrupt that for the world.