Life Passages

[Vanessa]

I'm curious how others handle the probing questions from those sometimes too nosy but well meaning individuals. What comes to mind most is "When are you going to get married? Have a baby? Buy a house? Time is not on your side you know!" Obviously the response is not the same for Grandma as it is for the new neighbor next door. Personally, I don't think I ever want kids. When I make this statement, its usually met with, you'll change your mind at the last minute, just give it time. Infuriating to me! Who says we can't be happy if we choose not follow the traditional path of get married, buy a house, have kids? Thoughts?

[Vanessa]

Personally I only consider "normal" to be a setting on the washing machine. I think when it comes to dating, it's more important to see if the person shares values and traits that you deem important. (S)He might be "normal" by society standards, but if they lack a sense of humor or have differing views on children or family, it still won't be a match.

[smarmoofus]

Through that typical string of untraceable and often illogical blog clicks, I found myself reading about "QuirkyAlones" and nodding emphatically at the definition. It's not that I'm opposed to the idea of being in a couple, it's that I think the "couple" status is less important than finding a partner (in crime). So just as soon as I find that person (and as I lick my wounds from my recent failure I vow that next time I'll make sure he is looking for the same thing and recognizes it when he has it), I will settle down and start on that path. I like where that path leads. I just won't compromise my need for fulfillment to get there.

[Sean Maney]

As a married guy, I hear the baby question too. My wife and I aren't having kids. Usually, when people ask, I'll just reply by saying, "We'll see."

[Bart]

I usually respond by telling people to stay outta my business. But I'm generally a curt person and people don't even bother asking me those sorts of things...especially since I'm already married with a child on the way. But before that, they really didn't bother me with those questions.

Of course...I wasn't in my 30s then, either...

So I don't know what the hell I'm saying anymore, I guess! :D

[Kurt]

I always give them a hard look and ask, "Why do you want to know?" More often than not, that shuts them up.

[LiQuiDfiRe]

well i just say, what ever happens, happens. if its for me, it will come. if it doesnt, its okay. i am happy whenever, wherever, whatever.... :)